When you think of changes you'd like to make this year, think of them with self-compassion. Each step of the way, even when you are close to giving up, remember that being kind to yourself will give you the strength to change for good. We each process an inner resource of wisdom, resilience and strength, a place of deep peace and ease and a great joy and light. When we're connected to that place, there isn't self-doubt. We know from our core who we are and what to do. Yoga will help you get there, and being kind to yourself will too.

When your inner critic starts up while you're holding a pose, notice how you feel in your body and mind. Then choose a more compassionate response. For example, if you're beating yourself for not being flexible enough in a pose, remember that the pose is meant to gradually improve your flexibility, not to force you into a perfect asana overnight. As hard as it might sound, just being present in the pose is enough.

If you find yourself thinking "I've got to go further in the pose or make this pose look better," ask yourself instead "Does this pose feel good? Does it feel safe? What can I do to enjoy it more?"

This process will serve you well when you're off the mat too. When you're faced with a choice to give in to an old habit or stick to your resolve, notice how you're talking to yourself about the choice. Saying no to that extra piece of chocolate cake or getting up early to meditate isn't an act of self-denial, it's an act of self-care.

Whether you're trying to exercise more, eat healthy or give up the booze, accepting yourself in where you are, and forgiving yourself in setbacks will make you more likely to succeed. Self-compassion will increase a sense of personal responsibility without triggering the self blame that are common when you take a self-critical approach to change.

Remember to give yourself credit for your positive choice and recognize that over time, your small steps will lead to big, bold and beautiful results.

Namasté,